A Broken System – The Elderly and Hospital Care

   According to the Chicago Tribune, in 2011, the Illinois Department of Public Health received 560 hospital complaints for inadequate services. Allegations ranged from patient abuse, inadequate infection control to more serious violations such as death. Of those 560 complaints, Illinois officials declined to investigate 85 percent due to a lack of funding. Many of these complaints also failed to reach to a federal level, thus many of these allegations were not further  investigated by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. So who is ensuring the welfare of hospital patients if hospital staff/administrators and state/federal officials fail to investigate allegations or complaints?  When someone is admitted to a hospital, it is expected that they are safe and given quality medical care.  It also is expected that nurses, physicians and other staff effectively communicate with one another to ensure adequate care is being provided. Recent events that have occurred with my elderly parents have in part contributed to writing this article. The objective of this article is to increase your awareness of inadequate patient care and encourage you to speak up and not remain silent if something similar were to happen to you.

   In December 2013, my father required emergency hospitalization to a hospital in the western suburbs of Chicago. The hospital he was transported to was not our first choice. However, paramedics don’t transport you to the hospital of your choice. Right from the start, I questioned if the ER nurse was adequately trained on how to communicate professionally to patients. This incident though appeared to be the least concerning of the many incidents that occurred during his hospitalization.  The one incident in which I am still trying to understand is how my elderly father who happened to be hospitalized for disorientation, fall in an intensive care unit? Is it not common knowledge that the intensive care unit specializes in treating severe and life threatening illness thus requiring the patient to be closely monitored? Unfortunately the poor care did not stop in ICU. Other serious incidents which occurred were the overuse and misuse of a highly potent benzodiazepine. The reasons for the use of this drug were never documented, nor were we informed that the drug was being administered. Despite our numerous requests to nurses and directors to have the drug removed, the drug continued to be administered. We were informed by one nurse that  staff administered the drug because my father was agitated and restless. Restless and agitated?  Is this enough to administer a highly potent benzodiazapine to an elderly patient with a history of dementia, pulmonary disease, heart and kidney failure?  If restlessness and agitation were sufficient reasons to administer this drug, then the entire world’s population would be on it at some point. At one point we were told that he may become dangerous, thus they administered the drug for everyone's safety.  The humor with this is that my father is a 5 foot tall, frail, 87 year old man, weighing 120 pounds when wearing his dentures.  How dangerous can he be? If there was concern about his safety maybe they should have been proactive and used the bed alarms which commonly are used with dementia patients who wander. Better yet, maybe they should not have administered as many doses of benzodiazepines as they did. 

   In a healthy individual, the half-life of the drug used (the amount of time it takes for the body to excrete at least half the drug) is 12 to 15 hours. For my father, that number is substantially higher due to end stage renal failure. The number of times in which this drug continued to be administered despite communicating with directors and nurses was quite alarming. Even more alarming is that they used this drug despite it being contraindicated in individuals with a history of pulmonary disease and kidney failure. Could the known side effects of this drug i.e. strong sedation/hypnosis, dizziness, drowsiness have contributed to his fall? Despite speaking to the patient liaison department, 3 different nurses and 3 nursing directors; the drug continued to be administered without consent.  It is quite alarming that my fathers records failed to specify our requests nor did anyone bring our concern to the doctor. No matter whose attention our concerns went to, no one seemed to take the matter seriously. I cannot count the number of times I was told someone was looking into the incidents. While we were trying to manage all of the above and get some answers from doctors, we were concurrently dealing with my mother having been transferred to hospice. Well, hospice is what they called it but obtaining the services appeared to require an  act of God.  We waited three days to transfer my mother to hospice and only were given a room when we went up the chain of command. The time we waited for the room was alarming however, what was disturbing was that we were told by one of the nurse administrators that they did us a favor by placing both of my parents on the same floor.  How compassionate of her!  What about addressing your staffs failure to communicate with not only the family but also with the physician and other hospital staff?  Unfortunately,  many people receive below average standards of care while hospitalized. Millions of people worldwide are harmed by poor hospital care each year. Despite one’s deep involvement with a family members care, significant negligence and inadequate care continue to occur. I can’t imagine what happens to those who don’t have advocates or family members involved in their care. Is it worth it to pursue a concern about quality? For many of us, it's not easy to act on a concern about the quality of care we or loved ones receive. The process can be stressful, frustrating and quite honestly emotional exhausting. And in the end, it's possible that others may not agree with the way we see the situation. Is it worth the time and energy to take action on concerns about the quality of hospital care?  Only you or your loved one can decide. In making the decision, think about the continued harm that might take place if you do nothing.  And think about how the actions you take might lead to better care for future patients. 

Why do Children Lie?

Kids lie for many of the same reasons adults lie. Some of the most common reasons children lie are: 

To get out of trouble.

To avoid punishment
To get others in trouble.
To protect their friends.
To make themselves look better to others.
To avoid embarrassment.
To impress authority figures and gain power in the process.
To receive positive attention.   


Of course, the THINGS children and adults lie about are different. For instance, kids lie about not having broken their parents’ rules or not having disregarded  their parents’ wishes. Adults lie about not having broken laws and not having done things that society regards with disdain. 


Researchers report that repeatedly, in surveys done, parents have rated honesty as the trait they most wanted in their children. They rated honesty above self confidence or good judgment.  This being so, parents are greatly upset when they find that their child has lied to them.

The parent feels betrayed and disrespected and often focuses on that instead of looking for the reason the child lied.  Parents should talk with their children,  as early as possible, regarding   the many reasons why it is important to be honest.  And as the child gets older instead of giving the lecture, it is more effective if the parent asks their child to tell them why it is important to be honest.  In the process of responding with this information, the “no lying” value is reinforced in the child’s mind. 

Another ineffective response to a child lying that parents often use is to play the detective and produce all the evidence they  have to prove that the child is lying.  Even when caught  in the act of a specific misbehavior some children will continue to deny that they did what the parent  actually saw.  That kind of a response from a child usually enrages the parent and the parent never gets to the discussion about the  misbehavior.

For example, if a child lies about having done his/her homework and all of the time is spent discussing the lying, the parent doesn’t find out why the homework hasn’t been done.  The child may need to have some tutoring or the consequence for not doing the homework may need to be changed. 

If a child is lying to classmates about things he/she has achieved, important people the family knows or adventures he/she has experienced, the child may have a low self esteem problem.  Again it would be more important to focus on working to improve the child’s self esteem, than to focus on the child’s lies per se.

In longitudinal studies of children’s lying, a majority of 6 year olds who frequently lie have it socialized out of them by age 7. 

However, another study looking at teens’ lying noted that as children entered their teen years and were trying to gradually gain their independence  by  pushing against their parents’ rules, they lied about a number of insignificant things. The teens reported lying to their parents  about : how they spent their allowance, if they started dating,  what clothes they put on away from the house, what movie they went to and with whom they attended the movie .

Parents, who find their teens lying, again, need to look at the reasons their teen is lying. Once that is determined  parents should address those issues either with more severe consequences or with a teen/parent  discussion looking at expanding the day to day living style choices a teen is capable of making.

Each incidence of lying should be examined independent of others.  Any lying event that involves danger to self or others would, of course, focus first on getting the truth and then looking at the reason for lying.

Generally, no matter what the age of the child, research showed that children lied less often when rewarded for truth telling.  Fear of punishment didn’t appear to be as effective in reducing the lying behavior as rewarding truth telling was.

Marijuana and Teens

As the number of states legalize the medical use of marijuana and decriminalize recreational use of marijuana, it has become more and more common for marijuana to be viewed simply as a harmless substance. 

One of the unintended consequences of the changes in the law is that teens who use marijuana on a regular basis use the changes in marijuana laws as proof that they will not experience any ill effects from their regular use of marijuana. They reason “if adults feel the use of marijuana is safe, it must also be safe for us to use.”

There is, clearly, not enough information being distributed to parents of teens about the problems associated with teens’ regular use of marijuana.  And parents of teens often are not aware that the marijuana teens use today is much stronger than the marijuana teens were using 20 years ago. 

According to Susan Weiss, Associate Director for Scientific Affairs at the National Institute for Drug Abuse, pot seized in raids now is 15 percent THC as compared to pot seized in earlier times that was 3 or 4 percent , (tetrahydrocannabinol, is the main mind altering ingredient in marijuana.)    

One of the most serious problems associated with teens who regularly use marijuana that is rarely discussed is amotivational syndrome. The mellow feeling that adults enjoy while using marijuana is what makes teenagers lose interest in studies and productive activities they formerly enjoyed and found  stimulating. Teenagers who are chronic users of marijuana just check out of life during their developmental years when it is most important for them to be involved in life.

Chronic teenage users begin over the long term to feel all activities are better enjoyed while under the influence.  Some lose the ability to enjoy the many small pleasures of life that non users enjoy and take for granted.  

Chronic teenage users don’t set career goals.  They spend their time discussing the funny things their friends did while under the influence, who can provide the best marijuana at the best possible price, and who has the best weekend parties.  

Chronic teenage users don’t learn problem solving skills because they turn to marijuana when they encounter problems.

Chronic teenage users,  who are socially awkward, don’t develop healthy social interacting skills because most of their socializing is done under the influence of marijuana.  And, some chronic teenage  users , as adults, may still interact socially as 13 and 14 year olds because that is the age they stopped developing social skills.

Depressed teenagers who use marijuana to self medicate their depression will over time become more depressed.  

Chronic teenage users’ school grades typically fall over time because the THC stored in their brain negatively impacts their short term memory and their ability to focus in class.

Chronic teenage users party their way through high school doing the bare minimum needed to graduate and don’t realize until after high school graduation how ill equipped they are to succeed in the adult world.  

Only too late, as their classmates who made better choices move forward with their lives, do the chronic users realize that the road they took during the critical high school years has lead them to a dead end.  

It is important that parents of teenagers never take too lightly their teenagers use of marijuana.